People are Defending Rape so that a Rapist can get onto the Supreme Court

Someone made a curious post that said: “Be afraid if you have sons because ANY woman can LIE and RUIN their lives.” They are essentially saying that lying is worse than rape. Which is fucked up. The rationale is that it “ruins men’s lives.” Which assumes that women either cannot rape or that men always want sex, which is a problematic thought derived from toxic masculinity.

They are overlooking that when women come forward, it ruins their lives. Bill Clinton had consensual sexual contact and people still blame Hillary Clinton and Monica Lewinsky. And do her fault, so does Hillary Clinton. Then there is the men’s lives part to look at.

These claims are only believed when there are thirty women blaming a man or the woman has a huge platform. People were willing to write off the women coming forward about Cosby. Detractors from those claims didn’t believe a word of it because they didn’t pay attention to how valid the claims were and assumed there weren’t very many. People didn’t stop defending Cosby to my face until I informed them that there were thirty-six women. That was at the time, there are now over fifty women that have come forward.

That is only if the story is newsworthy. If that man or woman isn’t famous as the manager of a coffee shop or a middle-management office, no one is going to care. The corporate structures are made to shut up people that make a fuss because it is cheaper.
There are some dumb shits that say it is just Hollywood. It is only being dealt with in Hollywood. That means the scum where you live are just getting away with it.
I guarantee you. Sexual misconduct has happened in your church. Women you know have been sexually harassed. In every town in America. We only like to acknowledge these things when it is convenient, like scaring children and teenage girls into behaving. There are things we can do to change this instead of winking at it. but first, the worst part of this whole thing.

There isn’t really a worst part of this issue and stance of “be afraid for your sons because ANY random stupid girl can RUIN their lives.” because this statement is made of worst parts. A really Humm-dinger is it doesn’t even ruin men’s lives. Most of the time it is just ignored. If something is done the guy can just come back. Now, one was holding back LewCK, he just decided to come back. Al Franken only had to face consequences because he chose to voluntarily. Anthony Wiener kept running for office, Alabama almost voted in a pedophile, and people still voted for Trump.

When, the Catholic Church was hiding child abusers, for decades, they would rotate them around poorer around poorer areas where kids were more likely to be “bad kids” with limited resources. So, they wouldn’t be believed when they tried to talk to adults.
Abusers know the kind of people that won’t be believed.

We can make things better by believing women. This is an exactly sexist issue. Several victims are not believed because they are women and the cases to not believe them are built right away and automatically. What did she wear, what is she trying to gain, she is just evil or bored or vindictive.
It could be more innocent than that. We might not believe victims because it is easier not to. We like to think that this sort of thing doesn’t happen. We are trained to think things are stable and good and would prefer to think that women lie instead of people with power abuse it.

We can change things and make them better. First, believe women-this means not instantly attacking and doubting them. Doubting victims should not be a reflex and you are bad for doing it and that is your fault, especially at this point.
If you don’t want the time to read the news and consider evidence, just believe it. Don’t make people have to dig up thirty victims before you surrender your tacit defense of rapists.

All these points will build into one another. Second, every person is as complicated and in the lead of their own narrative as you are. People are complete with their own wants, desires, and needs. Do not objectify them, breaking them down to some legs or shoulders. Most related, people are not there for your pleasure.

Third, learn what consent is. This is a thing everyone should do and there are a ton of free resources online. Once you learn what consent is, apply it to your life. Walk through scenarios of how consent works.
Creepshots, drunkenness, coercion, and things less than an enthusiastic YES are not consent. And being aware that other people have full agencies of themselves should keep you from assuming you have permission to do something that will pleasure you.

Fourth, apply these things to the media and the culture around you. Just like how people see plot holes, weird character development, bad endings, or how young earth people mention whenever something assumes evolution, point out when a story or piece of media fails at these things.
Point out how a show is a victim blaming, how rapey Bond is, or when characters in a story are only there to fulfill one purpose. You can still enjoy movies but if we do not tag these actions as bad or problematic then they get into our heads and we assume they are okay.